There comes a point where a romantic relationship no longer works. We all have been there. You go back and forth trying to make a decision about the future and if it will include your current partner. According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Making a marriage work is no easy task, here are five tips to help you evaluate if there is longevity in your relationship.
- Your needs are not met
Whether it is emotional, physical or spiritual in a marriage, each spouse should do their share to fulfill their partner’s needs. If the effort is only coming from one side, it could be a signal something is not going well within your relationship.
- You are staying together for the kids
As children age and enter their own romantic partnerships, they tend to imitate what they saw and experienced when they were young. You want to ensure you are providing a healthy example.
- You are being abused
Physical, emotional, financial or mental mistreatment of any kind from your partner is not acceptable. If you feel like you may be a victim of domestic violence, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
- You no longer trust or have respect for your spouse
The foundation for a stable marriage is built on the pillars of implicit trust and a mutual respect for one another.
- You have tried seeking professional help and can’t seem to work it out
Counseling needs to be a commitment from both parties. The desire to improve and change to help the marriage grow is a responsibility that you and your partner need to agree to take on.
You are the only one who can determine what is right for you and your relationship. If you find that one or more of these items on the list fit your feelings towards your marriage, it may be time to consider your options.