You’re going through a divorce, and there are disputes about the custody of the children, child support and alimony. What’s the number-one thing you can do to help yourself right now? Go offline.
Social media is a huge part of modern life in America today, but it can be very dangerous to put information about your life online when you’re going through a divorce. You can bet that your spouse, their friends and their attorney are looking for posts, pictures and messages that discredit you in some way.
Here are some examples of what can hurt you in court:
- Negative comments about your spouse, your children or the judge in your case.
Maybe your teen is driving you crazy, but you don’t want a judge to take your complaints as a sign that you’re not really capable of coping with them. Any hurtful comments about your spouse can be used to show the court that you’re incapable of fostering a healthy relationship between your ex and your children. And it’s never wise to disparage the judge making decisions in a case.
- Pictures of yourself drinking, jokes about drugs or comments about violent fantasies.
What you may think of as a funny meme or a tongue-in-cheek comment could be taken seriously when it’s presented out-of-context in court. Similarly, you don’t want the judge to see photos of your drinking or see evidence that you engage in drug use when you’re asking for custody.
- Pictures of you with a new love interest or comments and photos about your vacation.
If you’re asking for alimony, you don’t want to give the judge the idea that you’re actually quite financially comfortable. If it looks like you can easily afford a vacation to the tropics, for example, the judge may question why you need spousal support.
If you don’t want to go entirely offline, it may be time to cull your friends list and change your privacy settings instead — but you should still exercise caution. Once you post something online, it’s out there forever. Find out more about what you can do to protect your position as you go through a New Jersey divorce.