When you get married, the last thing you imagine is your spouse cheating on you. However, for countless spouses, this becomes a reality, making it much more challenging to continue with the marriage.
If your spouse has stepped out on you, you may want to confront them and discuss it. Before you do, you should stop, evaluate the situation, and gather evidence to prepare for the difficult conversation.
Are You Sure They’re Cheating?
First and foremost, before confronting your spouse, it’s important to determine whether your spouse is, in fact, cheating. Confronting a spouse without knowing the truth can make the conversation much more awkward and uncomfortable.
How did you find out? Did someone tell you your spouse was cheating, or did you find out yourself? It’s best to have some confirmation before taking any steps toward confrontation.
Recognizing the Signs of Adultery
Part of determining whether your spouse is having an affair is recognizing the clear signs of cheating. Some of the indicators your spouse is committing adultery include, but are not limited to:
- Lack of physical and emotional intimacy
- More time spent away from the home
- Overprotection or hiding of electronic devices, like cell phones and computers
- Changes in mood or attitude
- Indifference
- Lack of communication
- Accusing you of cheating
- A newfound interest in their appearance
- Increased spending
It’s important to note that although your spouse may start acting strange or exhibiting the above signs, it doesn’t automatically mean they’re cheating. Still, you should take special note of these changes and do some digging to get clearer answers.
Gathering Evidence of Cheating
The other essential part of determining whether your spouse is cheating is finding evidence. While you don’t necessarily need concrete evidence to confront your spouse, it can significantly help you get the information you need. Depending on the situation, you may be able to gather:
- Photos and videos
- Written communication, like emails, text messages, and social media direct messages
- Receipts
When you confront your spouse without evidence, it can result in gaslighting, and your spouse may make you feel crazy for even accusing them of committing adultery. Having proof of the affair will not only assist you when it comes time to confront your spouse but can also serve as evidence in your divorce case.
Confronting Your Spouse About Their Affair
Having a talk with your spouse about their cheating is one of the toughest conversations you can have. However, in many cases, it’s necessary to get the answers you seek and begin taking steps toward ending your marriage.
When you confront your spouse, try to remain as calm as possible. Losing your temper doesn’t help and could actually make the situation worse. Be direct, and if they try to deny it, show them the evidence.
Conversations about cheating can become heated, especially if your spouse has anger or aggression issues. If the conversation goes south, don’t try to push the topic. Instead, walk away and schedule a meeting with a divorce lawyer to discuss your case as soon as possible.
Consulting With a Skilled Divorce Attorney
Getting cheated on is never ideal. You may feel ashamed and experience grief over the situation and the end of your marriage. Nonetheless, after confronting your spouse, you should speak with a divorce lawyer to better understand your legal rights and options. Cheating may affect your divorce case, especially concerning matters such as property division and alimony. A local divorce attorney can provide the highest quality guidance, advice, and representation as you navigate the process and move on from your cheating spouse.
Contact an Experienced Monmouth County Divorce Attorney at The Law Office of Jennifer J. McCaskill, LLC for Legal Advice
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